Actually, I wanted to title this, Here's a LiveJournal I Won't be Adding to My Friends List, but that seemed a bit long.
Anyway, here's the post that I found out about thanks to Ragnell. I could've signed into LJ and posted a comment there, but figured, why bother? I don't invite myself in where I'm clearly not wanted and I don't look for fights. But since it's making the rounds, I thought I should post my position on it, even though I also commented on The Written World about it.
Yes, I think it can be worse for a parent to see their child, the life they helped bring into the world, suffer. Yes, Babs was crippled, never to walk again, although she did pass up a turn in the Lazerous Pit a while back in BoP, but still, she (thanks to Ostrander and Yale, now that I know who to thank) found her inner strength, remade herself, and made a damned fine life for herself. And while she looks in the mirror and sees the legs that can no longer support her, she's still whole where it counts.
Whereas, Jim will always look at her and see his little girl in that chair, the little girl he swore to protect and love, who is in that chair because the Joker had a beef with him.
So yes, they both suffered, but my point was that to make this about some woman-hating writer doing bad things to yet another female character is to miss the point of the story. If only Jim had had a son instead of a daughter for the Joker to have shot, but then, folks would have decried the lack of female costumed characters, because it would've been Batboy, not Batgirl who would've been crippled.
Sheesh. Get a grip, people. I offer my opinions. I don't insult anyone about theirs. I simply disagree. Whether or not I'm a parent has nothing to do with what I enjoy reading. I write male characters being raped, back in my fanfic days and now in my original fic, but not the science fiction novel I'm working on. Maybe in the sequel. But that doesn't make me a man-hater. Really. I actually married one.
Anyway, thanks to Ragnell, and SallyP, and others who commented that the LJer was off-base with the personal comments. I abhor abuse of anyone. Fiction reflects life. The bad things are written up for a variety of reasons in fiction. And we read them for a variety of reasons. Doesn't mean we want life to be that way. And it doesn't make us bad people.
Geez, and I thought folks writing incest fic and mpreg* were weird, though I certainly would never call 'em on it. To each his/her own, as long as it stays on the page and isn't how they live their lives.
*mpreg = male pregnancy fic, quite popular with some people in the fanfic community. Right up there with emasculating men fanfic.